Just Be Good To Me AKA Exception to the Rule Syndrome
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Remember the song, Just Be Good to Me by S.O.S Band? Well that is the problem with most women. I’m sure you’re wondering why I’m saying this, but as you read, the reason will reveal itself.
I was recently reading about a popular and beautiful actress who left her husband after she alleged that he repeatedly beat her. Since their split she and her ex-husband have been interviewed by different media publications and he had vehemently denied her allegations. He in turn accused her of dumping him when she received a lucrative brand endorsement deal. He alleged that she let the money go to her head after he had given her pivotal advice in the beginning of her career that propelled her to reach her present success level.
Well, as you know, time always tells who is telling the truth and time has told on him.
As you know, so many women are desperate to get married, so even though all the atrocities he committed was in the media for anyone who cared to check on his past to see, another woman turned a blind eye to this critical flaw in who he is and married him. She was definitely singing the song, Just Be Good to Me, especially the lyrics that state, “I don’t care about the other girls, just be good to me” as she walked down the aisle …
As a matter of fact, his relatively new bride is a self sufficient US based US citizen of Nigerian nationality. She is a very “desirable package” to the average Nigerian man based in Nigeria, so the wife batterer of a guy jumped on this desirable package quickly. He might have also gotten married so soon after his divorce to negate his being labeled as a batterer by his ex-wife. The bride smiled happily as they got married in a white wedding in Nigeria even though the ink on his divorce papers was still wet. Little did she know that she was signing up to become his punching bag.
As the Yoruba saying goes, “The whip used on the first wife is in the attic awaiting the second wife.” So as you guessed, he soon began beating his US based wife and she has been threatening to leave him permanently even though they are currently separated. As a Yoruba girl, I know she is not going to leave him so soon. She will stay for some more years of battery as she goes to one church after another attempting to pray his punching demons away, and repeatedly reports him to his family members for the atrocities he commits against her, while having a couple of kids by him, so that at least she will have some kids to show for their married years together, since that is the focus of most Yoruba marriages…
As far as I’m concerned, it serves her right because she is suffering from “Just Be Good to Me Syndrome ” AKA “Exception To The Rule Syndrome.” Many women think a man who consistently does something bad to another woman won’t do it them because they are “special” or “an exception to the rule,” only to find that they are treated worse and are left in a worse position that the first woman who faced the same situation with the same man.
Women should stop being emotional thinkers, start thinking logically and face reality. If a man is a batterer, switching partners won’t help him. The next woman will just become his next victim. What he needs is serious counseling to deal with his issues, time to mature out of his youthful foolishness and serious anger management coaching to learn how to manage his anger.
However, I know women won’t listen. Even if he and his second wife split up, another Nigerian woman will be too happy to have him ignoring his battering tendencies. Nigerian women will put up with a lot just to be married and be “Mrs. Somebody.” The naïve will keep thinking they are “special” and there’s something they can do to help the situation the previous ladies didn’t do. Unfortunately, time will teach them the lesson that there are no exceptions to the rule.
A word is enough for the wise…
Have you ever gone into a bar or club and had just a horrible night, only to return a few months later and have a completely different experience? Or what if your original experience wasn't terrible, but it wasn't worth another visit for...oh, a few months. Well this is what happened to me this past week in DC.
Photos by Doug Van Sant
JBG launched big plans for a U Street hotel sometime around 2007 that have been percolating ever since. But now that the hotel idea has been scrapped, plans to build an apartment building on the site have picked up speed and construction may begin as early as next summer.
It’s been a very long road that’s nowhere near done. A first round of meetings earlier in the year with the U Street Neighborhood Association, ANC 1B’s design committee, and the full ANC led to the developers making some substantial adjustments to the eight-story building: its height was lowered to 86 feet, the seventh and eighth floors were set back by 5-6 feet, and plans for a rooftop pool were eliminated in response to neighbors’ concerns about noise.
That was the plan delineated in the PUD.
Once the basics of the building’s shape and contents were worked out, JBG representatives met with neighborhood groups again to discuss the project’s design elements. Those have also been fully approved by the community, and an initial hearing with the Historic Preservation Review Board is scheduled for next Thursday. 
As far as retail goes, the company hasn’t decided on the exact balance yet. So the only element fully in place is the Rite-Aid, which will return to its corner spot after construction is finished. 
I recently got around to posting a few more galleries on my site and wanted to share with you this collection from a night with Pete Tong at Glow.
If another year is approaching, it must be time for considering another museum on the Mall. Considering that a museum dedicated to African Americans is currently rising on the Mall's front yard, Martin Luther King got one, Eisenhower's is on the way, and Latinos are vying for one as well, why not a women’s history museum? There is a coalition of folks who’ve been agitating for just that since 1996. Having built a comprehensive website and an administrative office in Alexandria, little by little, they’re making some headway in moving to DC’s federal heart.
In mid-September, legislation to establish a commission that would identify a site for a National Women's History Museum was introduced in Congress, sponsored by Rep. Carolyn Maloney (D-NY) and Sen. Susan Collins (R-ME). It’s a relatively small step, but a crucial one if the museum is to be directly on the Mall, the organization’s goal. 
But a permanent structure is clearly quite a ways off. For now, the group is gathering support; the organization already has over 50,000 charter members, according to Wages, and almost 50 national organizations representing more than 8 million people have signed on. 
The sea change in the city's 20-year timeline for cleaning up area rivers will happen only if DC Water can renegotiate a 2005 federal decree to build the full tunnel system. That consent decree from the Environmental Protection Agency emerged out of a lawsuit over DC's management of runoff in which several environmental groups were plaintiffs.
