Five & A Half Year Relationship Kaput?*!*?*!

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I was listening recently when a man called the Delilah radio show to talk about how he and his ex-girlfriend's five and a half year relationship ended recently, but he's still holding on to hope that things will change and she will return to him. His predicament is worsened by the fact that they are roommates living in her parent's basement, but he said he is moving out soon. Another juicy tidbit about the situation is that once their relationship ended she began to date one of her friends who she's apparently known forever. However, in spite of all this, he says he's had break ups before, but he believes she's the one for him and asked for the Brian Adams classic song, Everything I Do, I Do It For You to be played for her by Delilah.

Even Delilah had to ask why he's such a glutton for punishment by pinning for someone who has obviously but foolishly moved on. I don't know the woman but "moving on" so quickly for anyone who has been in a five and a half year relationship isn't wise. That's just a rebound relationship that will throw her psyche into more confusion especially if she begins sleeping with this “friend” turned boyfriend. As a matter of fact, the friend she is dating is no real friend of hers because if he is he would know that she needs time on her own before plunging into the next relationship. Delilah even empathized with the woman and said she believes the woman knows what she's doing is wrong, but probably feels like she can't help herself.

I wasn’t there, so I don’t know about that. However, I personally don't know how that can happen when we are human beings who are capable of reason...However, my perspective is bigger than the couple's issue. I want to share that even though both of them have separated, when people have been living together for five and a half years and sleeping together, spiritually they are very married. People forget that a wedding and a marriage certificate are relatively modern man made things that have nothing to do with spirituality.

In the bible and in the old days, marriage is when two people have sexual intercourse and is described as "he knew her" and/or "he took her to be his wife" in the bible. So, as I said before they are married. Another element is that sexual intercourse between two people serves as a glue that bonds them together spiritually and psychologically. So in this scenario the spiritual marriage that was contracted five and a half years ago has come undone and I can only feel sorry for both of them and those who they attempt to have relationships with in the future while carrying their emotional baggage in tow. Mmhm there they go, Americans who are passionate serial and eternal daters and serial monogamists, but know how to pass judgement on marriages in other cultures and polygamists...I won't even go there in this write up because that's the story for another day...

Anyway, back to Delilah's caller's situation and his relationship's demise. I am so amazed when people act without calculating the spiritual consequences of their sexual actions and we wonder why people are not emotionally or mentally sound in this world. Physically/medically if two people have sexual intercourse, they are sleeping with at least the last ten people they have each slept with and spiritually they are sleeping with everyone they have ever slept with because while they sleep together, fluids are exchanged and even if a condom is used, fluid is still exchanged in a smaller amounts and spirits are still exchanged.

In this hypersexual society, sexual intercourse is trivialized to the detriment of the foolish, but the wise know that any action capable of creating life, which human beings have tried to futilely to replicate is not something to be taken lightly. So this guy and this girl are emotionally bleeding hearts who will soon be looking for other people to mend them and will probably run into people who will leave them in worse shape than they started off with...

If they are both wise if they can't be together they would keep to themselves at least for some time while they heal emotionally and psychologically, but they are not wise that's why they don't know how to deal with the situation.

Anyway, to everyone out there I say, if you can’t be good, at least be safe because HIV is real.

A word is enough for the wise…